Tony Bennett Was Right

Get packed, say goodbye, mentally prepare yourself, get focused.

It’s hard to believe that I’ve only been in Boston for nearly five months. Even harder to believe that I’m already packing up and leaving.

If you have either followed or explored my blog, you know that (so far) it’s about my adventures in several cities: Barcelona, San Francisco, and Boston. If you’ve really paid attention, you’ve noticed the trend that each of these cities includes a coming and going post. You’ll also notice that these posts happen to be roughly 4 months apart from each other. In other words, I can’t sit still.

Whether it’s the desire to explore or the need for constant change, I’m always moving about and people never know where I happen to be. It’s nice that I can be unpredictable but I’d also like a sense of stability.

So…California, here we come.

I knew there was something about San Francisco, even if it took a few tries for me to realize where I needed to be. It came down to priorities.

Family, Friends, Ocean, Lifestyle, care-free, Career opportunities.

It certainly helps that I have some of my greatest supporters out there. (Shout out to Joey Roth and Macy Horton).

There are plenty more reasons why I picked SF and if you are genuinely interested, you can reach out to me. In the meantime, I’ve got to go get packed. I leave next Sunday (December 6th) so if you are in Boston and are reading this, I hope we can meet before I bid adieu.

To Boston, thank you for all the good times. For reminding me how to be resilient and how to stick up for myself and for helping me recognize what was most important. Until next time…

“I Left My Heart in San Francisco”-Tony Bennett

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Hey, You! You’re doing great!

So it’s been three and a half months into my official adult life in Boston and I will say that it hasn’t been too shabby.

Throughout this time, I’ve met with a lot of my college friends. In fact, the people I primarily hang out with are my friends from work, college, roommates or family. In the times that I have hung out with members of my graduating class or those who had graduated few years before me, a certain topic has always seemed to finagle its way into our conversations.

“How do I make friends?” and “Why does it seem so hard to make friends all of a sudden?”

It may seem kind of comical that this is an issue, but let’s break it down.

From the moment we enter school up until the time we leave it, we find our crew. We generally do this by establishing commonalities, whether through activities or personality traits, for example. The way we make friends doesn’t seem to change, but it seems like it’s just become a lot harder. Any theories on why?

Some advice I’ve received that I’ll share with you is to check out Meetup.com and Boston Social Sports. If you have any other suggestions, please send them my way.

In the meantime, I just wanted to give out a dose of some Monday Motivation:

You’re Doing Better Than You Think You Are

Until next time,

Christianne

~~~Update~~~10/29/2015

After receiving some feedback from friends and other readers, I’ve come to some conclusions that I think are best summarized by my college friend, Mark Daniel:

“1) Most friends in school are friends by default. You spend so much time together that it’s hard not to have some type of bond.

2) Instant connections in adulthood come from shared belief systems and similar dreams, but rarely do people allow themselves to be vulnerable enough to facilitate this.

3) “Working” life imposes many hard filters on us and how + with whom we spend our time. Before you know it, you’re in a routine. It becomes hard to remove those filters, and it takes very serious effort to develop real relationships.”

With that said, friendships are not going to come easy. They require hard work paired with a mixture of vulnerability and availability. As with anything, if you put in the effort, you will see results. Don’t worry if it doesn’t come fast. Sometimes the best things happen when we least expect it.

New Beginnings in Beantown

So, it seems like sticking with this whole blogging thing gets tougher as more things come my way. I’ve realized though that it is somewhat necessary to my sanity, as it gives me an excuse to make time for introspection among all the chaos. With that said, I am going to do my very best to keep momentum with my blog, starting now.

In my last post, I left off talking about my semester in San Francisco as well as the graffiti found in Clarion Alley of the Mission District. I also paid certain attention to the hustle mentality of people in the Valley.

What I failed to keep you all updated with was how I pitched my startup idea to Kleiner Perkins & Caufield Buyers (a venture capitalist firm with investments in Twitter, Google and Snapchat) and walked away from my fall semester in San Francisco with a firm belief in where I wanted to take my career: The Tech Industry. I went through my last semester of college in Boston and a Boston winter I thought would be my last. I made a solid friend group, took an amazing Spring Break road trip through The South, worked 3 jobs, took a coding class and really just made the most out of my last semester of college.

In terms of personal growth, I opened myself up to new friends. I got hurt along the way but ultimately learned that being vulnerable is necessary if I want to take things beyond surface level friendships. I learned a lot about self respect from how my friends treated themselves and I learned how to stick up for myself.

In May, I graduated. Spent the last few weeks in Boston…the most I had probably ever spent in my four years. As soon as I got on the flight back home to California, where I thought I was going to start my post graduate career, I felt like I was leaving too early.

Cue the foreshadowing…

I spent the rest of my summer in SoCal working remotely for DropMessages, a startup based out of San Francisco. I flew up to SF to see some friends I had met the semester before and united with the DropMessages team…finally putting faces to names. During my time there, I celebrated the Supreme Court’s ruling of Same-Sex Marriage at Delores Park and at the infamous Pride Parade. In my time in San Francisco, I also received a job offer to work at a software company in…drumroll…

Boston.

Bet you never saw this coming…unless the title gave it away…but neither did I!

Fast forward to August. Reunited with my family in Boston, settled into a new place in Brighton and starting my new job. Hanging with college friends, enjoying my independence. Missing my parents and friends back home, missing the nice weather and Mexican food. Adjusting to adult life, breaking negative ties, moving on. Meeting new people, doing new things.

Realizing that now is a new beginning. I have the freedom to do what I want! 

Getting used to the post-grad “adult” world has been both challenging and rewarding thus far. I’d say that overall, I have a positive outlook on it and I am enjoying this new part of my life.

Here’s a gallery of some of the fun things I have done in the last two months. Stay tuned for more updates.